How To Send An Anonymous Love Letter (5 Things To Keep In Mind)

This article was developed via a partnership with BetterHelp.

Falling in and staying in love is an exciting feeling. But it’s not always easy to express your feelings to the one you care about. It puts you in a vulnerable position, and it is not always clear if your crush will reciprocate those feelings.

However, one way to start this conversation is by sending an anonymous love letter. Doing so will make your feelings and intentions known without the awkwardness of an in-person conversation. Furthermore, knowing how they react to an anonymous admirer will make it easier to determine if they are likely to reciprocate those feelings once they know you wrote the letter.

But if you are considering this option, there are a few tips and cautions to consider. Read on for some advice on sending your crush an anonymous love letter.

Be Discreet

Since you want to keep it anonymous, it’s essential to be discreet. This will avoid any public embarrassment or having an in-person conversation about your feelings before you’re ready. Make sure to place the note at a time when you won’t be spotted by your crush or a random passerby.

You also want to choose a location for the letter that will be discreet but not stalkerish. For example, sending a letter in the mail might seem creepy if your crush never told you their address. Instead, you may want to try sending an anonymous message through a social media platform (preferably one where they won’t know your identity right away). Or, you can try slipping the note into their locker or hire someone to deliver it for you.

Don’t Go Overboard

Though you may be eager to express your feelings and connect with your crush, make sure to take it slow. Just start with one letter and see how it is received. You don’t want to overwhelm them with too many letters or gifts as it can scare them away.

Don’t Use The “L” Word

Though you may have intense feelings for your beloved, it’s important to take things slow. Therefore, it is wise not to mention the word “love.” This could be a bit overwhelming for them, especially since they don’t know who you are.

So make sure to write about your feelings in a way that is not overwhelming. Tell them how you feel and what you like about them. But don’t pressure them to be in love with you or to make a commitment yet. Take it slow and give them time to find out who you are and reciprocate those feelings.

Avoid Creepy Behavior

You don’t want to come off as a creep or a stalker. Therefore, avoid following your beloved around or saying anything in your letter that can come off as creepy. Likewise, don’t follow them around or use shady tactics to find out more information about them.

Furthermore, though you are undoubtedly attracted to them, keep this information brief in your letter. After all, there is no easier way to freak someone out than discussing your physical attraction with too much detail. Instead, focus on the person’s qualities, hobbies, accomplishments, and anything else you admire about them.

Be Respectful Of The Outcome

Writing and sending an anonymous love letter is both romantic and vulnerable. However, that doesn’t mean that your love will be receptive to your words and advances. Perhaps they already have a partner, or they just aren’t interested in a relationship.

However they respond, it is important to respect their wishes. If they are interested in meeting you and talking further, then that’s wonderful. But if they aren’t interested, then don’t retaliate or do anything harmful to them. Don’t push them into anything. Just respect their feelings and move on.

For more love advice as well as information about other relationship and mental health topics, check out the resources provided by BetterHelp.

22 Inspirational Quotes About Living With Bipolar Disorder

This article was developed via a partnership with BetterHelp.

Let’s face it: living with bipolar disorder is difficult. The constant emotional fluxes can make life unpredictable, exhausting, and challenging. Even those who take medication and go to therapy may still struggle to cope at times.

However, that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for hope. With continuous effort, support, and self-care, you can have the satisfying and stable life you crave. But sometimes, we just need a bit of inspiration to keep going.

Inspiring Quotes About Living With Bipolar Disorder

Check out these inspiring quotes about bipolar disorder that will make your day a bit brighter. And if you’re interested in learning more about bipolar disorder, you can find more information and resources at BetterHelp.

“I have a chemical imbalance that, in its most extreme state, will lead me to a mental hospital… I outlasted my problems. I am mentally ill. I can say that. I am not ashamed of that. I survived that, I’m still surviving it, but bring it on.” ― Carrie Fisher


“When under the strain of bipolar’s strongest symptoms, we certainly can make selfish decisions, but that doesn’t make us selfish people. In fact, because we have struggled and known such depths of darkness, our compassion runs deeper.”― Lyss Trayers


“Though I am often in the depths of misery, there is still calmness, pure harmony, and music inside me. I see paintings or drawings in the poorest cottages, in the dirtiest corners. And my mind is driven towards these things with an irresistible momentum.”― Vincent van Gogh

“Though I am often in the depths of misery, there is still calmness, pure harmony and music inside me.”― Vincent van Gogh


“See, you have a gift. People with bipolar disorder are very, very sensitive. Much more than ordinary people. They are able to experience emotions in a very deep and intense way. It gives them a very different perspective of the world. It is not that they lose touch with reality. But the feelings of extreme intensity are manifested in creative things. They pour their emotions into either writing or whatever field they have chosen” ― Preeti Shenoy


“The light you are searching for can be found in your reflection.”― Hannah Blum


“Before I die I’d love to see my name on the Famous Bipolar list. I’m not ashamed of my illness. I believe most of my talent comes from it.”― Stanley Victor Paskavich


“Some days I could fly and feel very happy. I record those days in my journal for I know that I will feel very sad again. And I need proof that I will be very happy again. Thankfully, I feel very happy tonight. Goodnight.”― Juansen Dizon


“I haven’t beat my mental illness. I’ve quit letting it beat me”― Stanley Victor Paskavich


“I’m bipolar, but I’m not crazy, and I never was. I’m stark raving sane.”― Emilie Autumn

“Bipolar Disorder can be a great teacher. It’s a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything in life” ― Carrie Fisher 


“Having bipolar disorder does not mean you are broken; it means you are strong and brave for battling your mind every single day” ―



“Beautiful soul, do not give up. What we believe to be the end is usually just the beginning.”― Hannah Blum


“Time will pass; these moods will pass; and I will, eventually, be myself again.”— Kay Redfield Jamison

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.”―Seneca


“I realized that bipolar disorder may be a part of my life, but it isn’t who I am.” —Demi Lovato



“When she was down, she was very, very down. But when she was high, she could fly.”—Unknown


“Please don’t confuse me with my illness. I am not bipolar; I have bipolar.” — G.E Laine

“Bipolar can make you unstable, but you are still able. Never give up, never give in, you will find your peace again.” — G.E Laine


“There is no great genius without a mixture of madness.” —Aristotle


“Compared to bipolar’s magic, reality seems a raw deal.”—David Lovelace


“If you want to see the stars, you must be willing to travel through the dark.”― Hannah Blum



Approximately 1% of the population develops bipolar disorder. Formerly known as manic depression due to the mood shifts that go from manic to depressive episodes – it is definitely a roller coaster of emotions for everyone involved so keeping grounded is one of the many important methods to keep things in perspective.

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